I haven’t done an outfit post in ages. That makes me a terrible goth and I must redeem myself. Luckily, my new witch skirt just arrived all the way from England. It’s quite heavy, so it should be nice and warm through the winter. It’s handmade from Corvus Corone and the colors represent the element of earth. There are also lovely skirts representing air, fire, and water and I would have them all if my budget allowed.
You’ll also notice the bright pink hair, a mixture of Special Effects Cupcake Pink and a bit of left over Cherry Bomb. It’s a vibrant hot pink and the color is lasting really well, but about two days after I did it I realized it’s just not me. Next time I bleach my roots I think I’ll go back to Nuclear Red.
Fall doesn’t really arrive here until October, but I’m already dreaming about it. As a kid I was so into summer, but it was probably the break from school I really loved. These days I’m more about fall. Cooler weather, falling leaves, Halloween, what’s not to love? I’m already dreaming about it, and dreaming kind of led to a new tunic/dress with flowy half-sleeves. I’m starting to really enjoy the unicorn hair (though my ends are a little fried) and I’m trying to figure out the right makeup for it. I’m going for the red-eyed consumptive look with the pale hair. It’s better in real life–the photos create an airbrush effect that washes it out–but it needs work. If I perfect it I’ll work on some better pictures.
. I never know what to do with my face in photos. My natural expression looks mad or hard to most people, and I’m not good at projecting emotions with my face. I’m usually aiming for romantic or brooding and end up still looking vaguely angry. Which is funny because I’m usually pretty happy. The makeup photos are my best attempt at a nice smile.
On rare occasions I splurge and order custom-tailored clothes from eShakti.* Custom tailoring from that distance is not the most precise thing ever, but over time I’ve gotten better and better fit. I don’t know if I’m measuring better or they’re becoming more precise in their tailoring or what (maybe both?) but this latest order came out pretty perfectly.
I’m not feeling up to a full Show and Tell post, and I feel awkwardly materialistic showing off a bunch of stuff at once anyway, so I’ll just slowly unveil my sweet new stuff as I get around to actually wearing it. Today is a bit chilly so I went with this witchy half-sleeved dress. The embroidery reminds me just a bit of Romanian peasant blouses, which reminds me of Dracula. This dress makes me want to put on some Dark Ambient music and mix magic potions. Or maybe dance in the woods in the pale moonlight. Or possibly grab a pitchfork and storm a castle. Whatever. I can do all those things now that I have the right outfit.
The “tree of life” necklace is from Etsy, but it’s old so I can’t remember the exact shop. Sorry.
*Sadly, I’m not famous in the slightest, so eShakti doesn’t sponsor me in any way. I had to pay money like a chump.
Day 10 is a special item of clothing. I don’t get all that attached to my clothes. This Nightmare Before Christmas scarf is the most special thing I could think of–I like the movie fine, but more than that I love Disney Halloween Time. I’ve only been twice–once for Mr. Robot’s and my anniversary and once last year with the kids, which is when I bought this scarf.
And now for something completely different:
Since finishing Frankenstein I’ve been thinking about all the lit classes I’ve taken, all the dark genres out there to explore, all the great stories and authors I read only because some teacher made me. I don’t have time to reread them all, but I thought I’d take time to reminisce. Here are a few unexpected treasures from my school days.
Shirley Jackson–she’s popular already with goths forThe Haunting of Hill House, which has been made and remade, so I would have heard of her eventually. But my first taste of Jackson was The Lottery. My teacher made me read it, and I was too young to really understand it at the time, but that story’s the reason I went back to Jackson later. The Haunting is good, but I prefer We Have Always Lived in the Castle.
Dorris Lessing–Lessing isn’t a gothic or darkly romantic writer at all. I had to read her in high school but I didn’t remember much but her name and her nice writing style when I picked up The Fifth Child looking for summer reading. I was not expecting subtle horror and fairy tale elements or the heartwrenching portrayal of mental health issues, but that’s what the book delivered. It only resonates more as I get older.
Nathaniel Hawthorne–I’m haunted by an internet argument I once had about Hawthorne’s deep, dark genius. I was and still am of the opinion that some of his genius was totally unintended. Hawthorne wrote some great stuff–The Scarlet Letter and the House of Seven Gables were quite good, and Rappaccini’s Daughter is exactly as amazing as my internet opponent thought it was. But people tend not to read the complete works of Nathaniel Hawthorne because some of his works were really not good. He wrote an entire book of badly Christianized Greek myths for pete’s sake. His major theme was the evil within us that must be overcome, and sometimes that made for deep explorations of the human soul, but sometimes that made for boring morality tales. Still, when Hawthorne’s good, he’s really good.
I have no idea whether that was fun for you, but it was fun for me. Did you read and like any of these? Got any other dark-but-not-goth favorites I should add to my long, long list? Things you had to read for school that you didn’t appreciate until later?
Both my lungs and my internet are finally working well, so it’s back to posting and hopefully back to my lame attempt at the 30 Day fashion challenge. Yay!
My girls have been playing “hotel” by making my bed for me and demanding a quarter a night to use my room. Today they invented the extra special service of choosing an outfit for me. They went with a purple theme, as you can see. They also picked one of the skirts I wear the most. I don’t really wear leggings or tights on their own, and I own like four of these skirts to throw over them. They actually have huge pockets so they’re also great for times when I don’t want to carry a purse.
My horrible chest cold kept me up last night but I still had to get the kids off to school and do
a bunch of shopping for my kid’s birthday (and a totally separate Sunday thing I’m in charge of). Not to mention the homework, tumbling class, and getting dinner prepared. Praise be to strong coffee and decongestants for helping me get through the day.
No rest for the wicked, eh? I might be dead on my feat but my kid will be screaming with delight tomorrow. I hope your health is better than mine and your weekend is as good as my kid’s.
My new favorite “spooky schoolmarm” look. Still working out the best spots for full body photos. This clearly isn’t one of the best spots (I’m totally pushing a branch out of my way there), but if you look closely the sun is lighting up the hot pink fringe at the back of my hair. I usually can’t get it to show up, so yay for that.
Hell Bunny sweater over basic Target tank, ponte pants from Dress Barn (hate that name but they sell nice stuff). Shoes, old, American Eagle. Bat necklace, Chloes Vintage Jewelry on Etsy.
I bought this dress ages ago and have hardly worn it since. I bought it because I love the striped arms but it’s basically a tent dress (tent tunic? It’s pretty short.) and I don’t know why I ever thought that shape would work on me. It drifted to the back of my closet and stayed there until this morning. I stood there in my favorite leggings, totally uninspired by everything I had to go with them, when I realized my new obi belt might be just the thing to make my tent dress work. I bet I’ll be reaching for it a lot more often now because I love this combination.
What’s your favorite way to save a piece that’s not working?
I have dreams of a sleek, focused goth mom wardrobe. I’m not sure what that would look like, but I know it looks different from what’s in my closet. I’ve been working on it, though, getting rid of old stuff and trying to only replace it when I find nicer stuff that would work in my dream wardrobe.
The obi belt is what happens when new dreams meet older clothes. I got this shirt from ModCloth a while back. I love the keyhole and the high collar, but it just never draped right. After some thought and a lot of browsing I fell in like with Red Curry Designs on Etsy. I was tempted by several of the corsets but they’re a bit pricey so I settled on the obi belt as a way to try them out. The belt came right away and is nicely made (plus it’s fully reversible–red and black, my two favorite colors!). Now I’m even more tempted to add a couple Red Curry corsets to my wardrobe when budget allows.
Belt: Red Curry Designs on Etsy
Skirt: Violet Star Creations on Etsy. I love her passport skirts–nice, deep pockets.
Goths are known for our elaborate and unique personal style. Geeks, on the other hand, are not. Neither are middle-aged mothers of three. Like all goths, I wish to seek out the dark forces and join their hellish crusade, but I seldom have time or energy to truly look the part. Because of that, this blog will not be awash in darkly sensual photos of me. It will instead be lightly sprinkled with casual goth mom photos like the ones you see before you.
Once, while wearing this very outfit, an old lady said I looked “kind of hip” and asked me for fashion advice so . . . I’m clearly a vampire goddess in this.
But seriously, if I wanted to worry about looking perfect and being a certain size I’d just follow mainstream magazines. That’s what they’re for. For alternative fashion to be a real alternative, it has to embrace everyone from willowy vampires to corporate ghouls to thick gargoyles with problematic hair. You know, like me. So here I am. I love a tall, pale, gothic model as much as anyone but I don’t feel a need to look like one.
Don’t get me started on the hair, though. Naturally black, naturally curly, it’s a blessing and a curse. And a post for another day.
Boots from Torrid / Leggings from Lineagewear, well-made and they stay put around the waist. / Dress from Dress Barn. Embarrassing store name, nice dress for the price. / Necklace old. Local craft fair but I can’t remember who made it. / Cthulhu Crest ring from Amazon